The Language of Love
I've been thinking a lot lately about the various ways to love someone. I talked before about being differently loved, but I hadn't yet heard about the whole "love languages" thing. Now that I have, I'm taking the quiz for myself and passing it on to a few friends. I don't particularly like the way some of the questions are posed, but I did my best to answer and was a bit shocked by the results. I know DH and I have different love languages - it's obvious. However, I don't think either of us has ever felt unloved by the other.
It's funny how crazy a relationship can get even when two people are crazy about each other. When one person thinks they are doing every thing imaginable to show their love, the other is oblivious to their gestures, or takes them the wrong way. "I love you," might be great for some couples, but someone else may need to hear things like, "I am butt-crazy, head-over-heels, in love with you!" all the time to feel comfortable. Other people may never need to hear it all, and are just as content with the actions of their partner. It's all about how you express love, and how you receive love. Sometimes it's not about having enough love, but being able to receive it the way your partner gives it, and vice versa.
How do you love?
| My Love Language: | |
| Score | Love Language |
| 6 | Words of Affirmation |
| 9 | Quality Time |
| 4 | Receiving of Gifts |
| 8 | Acts of Service |
| 3 | Physical Touch |
Yes, the importance of knowing what you want best is important - but the converse is also pretty important. You have to be able to touch when it is most uncomfortable for you, say things when you'd rather sit quietly. Love is about ever-changing compromise.
Posted by: Deborah | September 26, 2007 at 09:04 AM
Score Love Language
8 Words of Affirmation
8 Quality Time
1 Receiving of Gifts
4 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch
How to interpret your Profile Score:
Your highest score indicates your primary love language. Your second highest score indicates your secondary love
language. If two scores are identical, you are bilingual (you have two primary love languages). If the scores of your
primary and your secondary language are close (for example, 10 & 9 respectfully), it indicates both are important to
you. Whatever a significant other does to express love in either of these languages will get emotional points with you.
The highest possible score for any language is 12.
Having a clear picture of your primary & secondary love languages will explain much of your past behavior Think back
over the past and ask yourself "What have I most often requested from significant others?" Chances are your answer
will lie within the scope of your primary & secondary love languages. You have been requesting that which would meet
your deepest need for emotional love.
Posted by: SH | September 18, 2007 at 09:10 PM